Bedridden Betty Nambooze has joined other Ugandans to add her voice on the recent introduction ceremony of of singer Judith Babirye who also doubles as Bwikwe woman representative to the August house. Nambooze said the two should behaved as leaders to act as role models to the people they lead and not to encourage the youths in their areas to join the same scandals.
“Marriage is not just any other commitment. If people are shying away from marriages – one reason could be that people are scared of commitments that grow from marriage and are worried ;what if it does not work out yet divorce procedures are cumbersome and taxing.” Nambooze said.
Below is the full statement of Nambooze
Ugandans are fond of living a life of hypocrisy,what Honorables Babirye and Musoke did is our daily occurrence…Men cohabit with women or young girls come for a visit and stay for ever to force a marriage but in most cases these relationship have ended this way..Men eventually walk out of those relationship and commit to women of their status leaving the other lady crying foul. I don’t approve of it but that is life mwattu.
Since Babirye and Musoke are leaders they should have known that they are supposed to be role models and not scandal engineers in Buikwe. By the time you put a kwanjula in a hotel far from your parents home,then that is self indictment. Although am not disproving of this relationship (love and marriage are personal issues) am of the view that the two lover birds were a bit reckless and didnt put in enough homework before they went for their marriage ceremony.
Howeer a wise man learns from mistakes of other. I have picked on their story to pass a word of counsel to our young girls. And by coincidence The Times news paper sent to me this morning has an article about this matter part of which I reproduce below;
Marriage is a sacred or contractual relationship. It so follow that legal Marriage has consequences, entitles both the persons to obligations and to enjoy the benefit of living together, the concept of live-in relations has come into picture. Live in relationship provides for a life free from responsibility and commitment unlike in a marriage.
The arrangement of living unmarried life together to conduct a long-going relationship similarly as in marriage is open to people.In this relationship an unmarried couple lives together under the same roof in a way it resembles a marriage, but without getting married legally. This form of relationship does not thrust the typical responsibilities of a married life on the individuals living together. The foundation of live in relationship is individual freedom to get in and out without much incumbrances.
The Indian bench of Justices Markandey Katju and TS Thakur, cautioning that those who go in or livi- in relationships must be ready to face the consequences in case they flop. The Supreme Court of India has noted that just any ‘live-in relationship’ does not entitle a woman to alimony. ’
Marriage is not just any other commitment. If people are shying away from marriages – one reason could be that people are scared of commitments that grow from marriage and are worried ;what if it does not work out yet divorce procedures are cumbersome and taxing.
“Merely spending weekends together or a one-night stand,or stay together for months and even years would not make it a “domestic relationship.” If a man has a “keep” whom he maintains financially and uses mainly for sexual purposes and/or as a servant it would not, in our opinion, be a relationship in the nature of marriage”, the judges ruled.
The law traditionally has been biased in favour of marriage. Public policy supports marriage as necessary to the stability of the family, the basic societal unit. To preserve and encourage marriage, the law reserves many rights and privileges to married persons. Cohabitation carries none of those rights and privileges. It has been said in the context that cohabitation has all the headaches of marriage without any of the benefits.
I wish therefore to add that we need to caution our girls not to walk into relationships,agree or even force themselves to live in, because in most case these young ladies end up as carpenters making men and others taking them over as already made products a thing that breaks their hearts and shutters their lives.
After Babirye and Musoke pulled off a “secret kwanjula”, my advice to Nalongo is to cool down for Babirye hooked herself legally into a relationship with Musoke. Drop bitterness and wish them a prosperous and happy marriage. If you take on this with a positive mimd one day you will look back and laugh at Ssalongo and Babirye.
Nalongo,this has nothing to do with you…the fault is not on your side, the person to blame is Musoke who disappointed you and failed to respect and value your love. But when you get to know that a divorcee older than her man by years recently won the heart and indeed got married in a fairytale marriage to a British Prince then you should pull yourself up,give yourself a sabbatical and pray to God to give you a man ready to commit.